A very high profile business man is hot and heavy to find his soul mate. But being famous has its drawbacks. So I asked him to make an attraction list which includes all the qualities and characteristics that he wants. He sent it to me and said, “Now what?”
Creating an attraction list is not enough.
1. You must do an honest evaluation of every thing you have on the list. Here’s the question, “Do you possess those qualities you are attracting?” Unfortunately, you will attract what you are, not what you wish for.
Consider this: Your perception of the women you attract will be tainted by the qualities you like and dislike about yourself. You can only see a projection of yourself in them. Therefore, the resolution of your own distasteful characteristics is paramount. You must forgive yourself. You must accept your negative qualities.
2. You need to create an additional list. Answer this question, “What do I WANT my perfect mate to expect from me?” I began implementing this process after reading the book Attracting Perfect Customers by Stacey Hall & Jan Brogniez.
This second list is critical. For example, most of the ultra-powerful clients I work with have love interests in their lives that don’t get what it means to be famous or extremely influential. The problems in the relationship are related to expectations. The lover/mate expects things from you that you are unwilling to be accountable for. This creates broken expectations, which lead to conflict.
So, be totally honest about what you will be accountable for in the relationship. Don’t allow yourself to write down any expectations out of guilt or obligation. Only write down what you truly want your perfect mate to expect from you.